You are five.

by Amy on February 25, 2015

Alice and Anthony

Who were you when you were five?

When I was five…

I loved flowers — I vividly remember the plants from my childhood – the sunflowers in my backyard, the rose bushes by the patio, the filbert orchards and the Oregon grapes with berries you couldn’t really eat.

I loved to swim – that feeling of being under the water on a hot day was magical.

I could play for hours by myself (I liked the company of my Barbies over the company of real people).

I made “funbooks” for my little brother, full of mazes and puzzles, word searches and pictures to color.

I loved animals, desperately. My best friend was my dog Jamie and my cat Charity.

I was an artist. I drew horses and roses and forests.

After all the years of thinking I should be smart, accomplished and pretty…

I now just want to be like my five year old self again, full of wonder and joy and curiosity.

That five year old girl who didn’t know there was anything she was supposed to do, like or be.

I’m convinced there’s nothing to fix about any of us.

We just need to re-connect with our five-year-old selves before we ever learned the word “should.”

That five-year-old version of you is your ticket home.

Never forget who you are.

My twins are five.

And because I never want them to forget…

Alice Kathleen Albano. You are five.

Alice

You …

Love rainbows. The moon. Fairies. Unicorns. You call yourself a “real princess.” You make fairy houses.

You are a true fashionista who loves to window shop for “pretty dresses.” (And you got really mad at me that day when I didn’t let you go into the shoe store.)

Your smile and your laugh light up a room. When strangers hear your guffaw they laugh out loud, on the spot.

You love to play mama – to your little sister and the earth – the rocks, leaves, bugs, flowers…

Strangely, you are natural at hulu dancing and writing Japanese characters..???

You want to be in a parade. When we went to see the Fresh Beat Band you told me you wanted to be on stage.

You love to tell stories and write them. You ask me to write while you narrate and I can never write as fast as the stories you tell.

You can outrun everyone in the family (except me).

You love swimming and being in the water. I think your totem animal is a dolphin.

For being such a gentle girl, you’re really competitive. You love races and contests and trying to get your pajamas on by the time I count to ten.

You can draw by yourself for hours. You love your pencils and your sketchbook – you can draw birds like no other.

You are obsessed with candy. And TV. Except you don’t like to watch scary stuff because it will get in your head, you say.

You talk like this…

“Mama you sing beautiful. Oh your wedding ring, it’s so pretty. Look! The trees are dancing!”

You are all love.

Anthony Michael Albano. You are five.

Anthony

You…

Love to climb. You can already do the monkey bars (plus skip a bar) all by yourself. (And you hang upside down on the bar in the elevator while it’s moving–it’s your latest trick.)

You love ninja turtles. The only way I got you to wear those red short is by telling you that Raphael chose them.

You favorite character in Pinocchio is Lampwick. When I asked you why you said, “because he turned into a donkey.” I think it’s because you’re fascinated by transformation (but then again I’m a life coach).

You have always been extremely sensitive to negative energy. It freaks you out. Always has.

If you get in trouble the only way to calm you down is to give you a hug and lots of love. I told them that at school and the teacher says it works like a charm.

You love your friends. Your best friend is Duncan and you two are inseparable.

You love to build things and figure out how stuff works. (You destroyed your sleeping mat at school, pulled the fluff right out. I told the teacher it wasn’t because you were being bad, you just wanted to see what was in there.)

You love Legos. The more complicated the better. I am your Lego partner.

You are very good at drawing. Your pictures are really detailed. You draw robots and ninja turtles, of course.

You love to make people laugh.

You are very sweet and kind to your little sister. When she gets hurt, she often goes to you or her sister for a hug.

Your favorite book is called Salmon Stream. You make us read it over and over. I think your totem animal is a Salmon.

This is how you talk:

You: “Hey mom, look under there!”

Me: “Under where?”

You: “You said underwear! See I can make you laugh!”

You are all love.

Now it’s your turn. Tell us about your five-year-old self? Leave a comment below!

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love

I slept with my husband the day I met him. I was 18 years old. It was my first week of college.

The next morning I tried to make conversation but he made his escape quickly. (He says it was because he had bad breath.)

I figured I was used goods. Everyone knows that sleeping with seniors (your first week of school) is a very (very very very very) bad idea.

But then he sent a messenger down to my dorm room to invite me on a date.  Our first date! (Chinese food.)

When I opened the fortune cookie it said, “Stop searching forever. Happiness is right next to you.”

I took it as a good sign.

The next time I hung out with him I got drunk. Supremely drunk. So drunk, in fact, that I ended up spending the entire night on the bathroom floor.

There I was straddling the toilet in the women’s dorm bathroom, my head lay on the lid. Each time I tried to lift it, I’d puke, burp or fart.

It must have been quite a sight to those unassuming gals visiting the bathroom in the middle of the night…

As I straddled the toilet, Ron sat behind me holding my hair each time I’d lurch.

There we were, the two of us spooning the toilet on the bathroom floor, wrapped up in a big ole blanket like a burrito.

Six months later we were engaged.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got two girls of my own now. I get that I was without question a mother’s worst nightmare.

Clearly Emily Post would not have approved either. But here’s what I’d tell the queen of modern day social conduct:

Manners are highly over-rated when it comes to love.

Be yourself.

Yeah I gave my future husband a lot of outs. Within a week of knowing me, he had seen (heard, smelled) it all.

But he stuck with me.

Today is our 20 year wedding anniversary.

Instead of writing what I thought I was going to write (the 10 keys to a happy love life), I want to say this:

Stop worrying about what you’re going to say…

Figure out how you like your eggs…

And if you want to do the nasty, do the nasty. If you don’t, don’t.

Never try to be someone you’re not. Let that person have it — YOU in all your glory. If he stays, you know it’s because he really does loves YOU.

If he doesn’t, well…

Don’t let the door hit you in the ass… as they say.

In honor of our 20th,  I asked Ron to write some advice about love from his perspective. And he did. For me. And for you. (See how great he is?)

10 Keys to a Happy Love Life by Ron Albano

  1. Remember to look at your partner and see those same things that caused the spark in the first place.
  2. When under daily pressure, remember that you and your partner are doing the best you can.
  3. Forgive quickly. Holding a grudge is a waste of time.
  4. Discuss your life vision together and work together to make each other’s dreams come true.
  5. Value each other’s individual dreams. Let your partner be themselves and not what you want them to be.
  6. Make time to be together alone (without kids, friends and family).
  7. Continue to grow and better your relationship. Even when you feel like you’re too busy.
  8. Let go. Be generous and spontaneous as you were when you first met. Long relationships can get too practical.
  9. Keep some mystery. Respect the dignity in your relationship.
  10. Don’t take things so seriously. You have each other. That’s what matters.

Now it’s your turn. To solidify our future, I really want to hear from you! What do you think is key to a happy love life! Post a comment below!

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