Rejection

Saint Ron: Why the Truth Hurts (If You Let It)

January 27, 2017

“You should be canonized for putting up with her all these years.” This was a comment made about me to my husband. The same person I blocked to escape his poisonous text messages found a way to get to me through my husband. I won’t lie. When I heard that he said this about me […]

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The Adult Brain of a Bullied Kid

October 6, 2016

We were on a bus, heading into Portland for a field trip. It was going to be a great day. We were going to try sushi for the first time and see China town. I was in seventh grade. Sitting on the bus, the girl next to me was leaning up against the window talking across […]

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Down in the Dumps? How to Feel Better in 30 Seconds or Less

May 18, 2016

The other day I saw a very touching exchange on Facebook between some family members. And its embarrassing to admit but, instead of being happy about it, I made it all about me. I made it mean… I’m not lovable. I don’t fit in. I’m an outsider. The same story I’ve been telling myself for […]

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Why Good Things Terrify Normal People

January 14, 2015

I remember the first time I filled a group-coaching program. My first ever five figure launch! I‘d been dreaming of it for years but when it actually happened… I was thrilled for like a day and then terror set in. Has this ever happened to you? That thing you’ve worked so hard for, that thing […]

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Why Being an Entrepreneur Brings Up Your Shit (and What To Do About It)

April 2, 2014

I posted a question to my Facebook wall the other day, “What brings up your shit? Drop it here (pun intended).” I thought it was a cheeky question meant to invoke some thoughtful responses. Not so much. It incited a minor hate fest actually—other people really bring up people’s shit I discovered. One Facebooker decided […]

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10 Reasons Why Other People Reject You

March 19, 2014

Back when I volunteered for Amnesty International I had a friend who was a member of the board. When he spoke at rallies it made people cry and laugh and give standing ovations. Afterwards people would flock to him like he was the Second Coming. I think the reason we hit it off was because […]

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The Great Rejection Hoax

March 5, 2014

Early last Saturday morning I was outside with my kids when I noticed my new neighbor running by. I watched as he and his little boy ran over to the house across the street. The little boy who lives there came out to greet them and they all bounded off together. I immediately thought to […]

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Why You Must Be Dangerous

May 16, 2012

Lately the only way to get my son to sleep at night is to make sure he’s armed with a flashlight, a sword and his “monster spray.” But adults have monsters too. The concept of rejection is one of those adult kinds of monsters. I have a client, for example, who is terrified of being […]

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What if Rejection were like The Backson?

May 7, 2012

I watched Winnie the Pooh with the kids the other day. There is a scene about The Backson. He is a terrible kind of monster…. His hide is like a shaggy rug His face a surely ugly mug With two sharp horns atop his head In between a mop of hair that’s red And in […]

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Why Rejection, Very Literally, Hurts

February 6, 2012

I had the nanny over last Saturday to help out with the kids while I enjoyed a bit of “me” time. First thing the next morning when I went into Anthony’s room, he sees me, rolls over and says, “where’s Maria? I want Maria!” Then I went into Alice’s room to say hi. It was […]